The Connective Capacity of Self-Compassion
This is one of the most overlooked benefits of self-compassion: That while many of us initially fear that treating ourselves more kindly will be a slippery slope into slothdom, the opposite actually tends to prove true.
The Load-Lightening Power of Community
This is what community does for us, right? It lets us feel capable of handling more than we've felt capable of handling on our own. It helps lessen our load when things feel too much to bear on our own.
Reconnecting, One Moment at a Time
Interconnectedness is our natural state of being. We simply have to remind ourselves to remember to notice moments of connection as they naturally arise.
Caterpillar Soup
We tend to try to rush past that soupy phase into our next — less messy, less unpleasant — phase. And understandably so. The “soupy phase” doesn't tend to be much fun. But it's a necessary part of the process of transformation.
Preschool-Style Basics of Being Human
How does anyone get their emotional needs met when everyone’s bandwidth seems to be shrunken down in the same moment? I think we can start by going back to the Golden Rule — aka the preschool-style basics of being human.
Some Extra Grace Right Now
How can we compassionately honor our own pace and emotional and energetic needs and limits as we begin to blend "inside" and "outside" in this reentry phase?
Self-Compassion Lessons From a 2-year-old
This is the same thing we're doing with self-compassion practice as adults. We're (re)installing that gentle, nurturing, maternal-type, soothing voice within ourselves that helps us feel safe and calm so we can access a sense of resilience from within whenever we need it — particularly when we're struggling, feeling scared, inept, or alone.
Thank You 2020
Ongoing pandemic or not, we still have so much control over where we place our intention and our attention. What are you pointing yours toward as we move into this (symbolic but as meaningful as we decide it to be) fresh start of the new year?
Embracing the Circumstances As If You'd Chosen Them Yourself
Our systems -- physical, mental, emotional, logistical, relational -- are being taxed to constantly reconfigure themselves. And the go-to practices you generally turn toward to fill your well may feel like they're just not working like they normally would.
Some Thoughts & Resources For This Wild Moment (3/23/20)
So now here we are. Each of us in our own family units, our own communities, this country, and the world, together in this same wild situation. Reminded every day – every moment, in fact - how inextricably interwoven our cells and well-being and lives as beings on this planet are.
Both/And: The Freeing Power of Paradox
This path of spiritual/personal growth is rife with paradox. Things that appear on the surface to be contradictory but upon deeper exploration reveal themselves as deep Truth (capital T).
Hanging in the Hammock Between "Over" & "Next"
What if the more you practice hanging with the discomfort of the I-don't-know-ness rather than trying to distract yourself from it or solve your way out of it, the more strength and trust that you can handle whatever life throws at you you'll start to own within yourself?
Maybe It Doesn't All Have to Happen *Right* Now
We can't tap into our most essentially creative power or the flow of abundance when we're rushing forward.
Our fullest power and potential are only available when we're firmly grounded in this present moment.
How to Turn Pointless Suffering Into Purposeful Suffering
So it's not a question of whether we'll suffer. It's only a question of whether that suffering will feed our highest Selves and set more ripples of kindness and love into motion into the world, or feed our ego and unconscious patterns in ways that perpetuate the endless cycle of suffering.
You're Braver Than You Realize
It takes deep courage to allow ourselves to be transformed despite the discomfort that's a necessary part of the process.
It takes courage to take committed action steps in the direction of the life we want to create day after day after day even when we're not sure if "it's working" yet.
Less Resisting, More Resting
The way these human brains of ours are wired, we try to resist pain and discomfort when we anticipate them coming our way anyway. But the more we resist anything that's a natural part of the cycle of life, the more suffering we cause ourselves.
Year-end Clearing & New Year Jumpstart
You'll experience more of whatever you regularly focus on this year. So bring some kind, consistent attention to what you want to experience this coming year, starting right now by pausing to write what you most want to create or experience down.
What May Really Be Going On When It Looks Like You're Procrastinating
When we perpetuate the habit of not following through on things that feel important to us or waste precious time and energy saying we're going to do something but never actually doing it, procrastination is most definitely a habit that could use some upgrading.
But sometimes when it looks like you're procrastinating, things might not be quite as black and white as they appear.
The Oh Sh** Questions
When we really do trust the process and lean into earnest inner inquiry with curiosity rather than judgment, we arrive at insights we never could have conjured up with our logical minds alone. The deepest wisdom arises from stillness, not from doing; from being, not from thinking.
20 Ways to Stay Open When It All Just Feels Like Too Much
How do we lean into uncomfortable realities in a way that's both useful to the world and feels manageable to us?
How do we let our hearts be touched by life without our bodies and minds getting so overwhelmed that they shut down?